The following is the Preface from "I Could Write A Book", currently in the editing stages. For those that have traveled down the daunting dating path of the 21st Century, you are not alone and for those that haven't, welcome to my world.
The end to my fifteen year marriage, begged the question, “Is this the beginning…or is it the end”, to my life, that is. For me, it was the beginning, but I suppose the answer to that question is different for everyone. To define it as either or, I believe, is dictated by how it ends. Were you the divorcer or the divorced, the committed or the commitment phobe, the anguished or the antagonist? It also depends on our perception and general outlook on life as a whole. Are you optimistic or pessimistic, a goal seeker or a pacifist? Do you believe life is a journey of choices with rewards and consequences or a divinely created destiny that plays out just as it should?
This book is a quirky spin, on my experiences in 21st Century dating. I’ve learned and listened enough to know, that it resembles the story of many seekers, men and women alike. The dating world doesn’t care about gender or age, how we got here or how long we’ll be staying. It remains forever universal in its heart-wrenching, often humorous twists and turns along the way to never ending happiness. Although the younger generation may be less perplexed than the seasoned-singleton, which is my politically correct term for “older”. I have found that they are equally disenchanted by the disingenuous online dating world of the 21st Century. For those of us that remember the good old days of boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy asks girl out, 21st Century dating is a world to be reckoned with, as we embark on a journey to find just one who remembers and values it too.
As I started the thought process of writing this book, I found myself mostly embarrassed that after three years of picking through the dating garden, all I had to show for it was blisters and a bag full of weeds. After three years, that managed to feel long when I was lonely and short when I was preoccupied, I was still no closer to finding “the one”. Impossible, I thought to myself. Is it me? Absolutely and…no not at all! This isn’t a contradiction, it’s an admittance, that though I would love to say I’m perfect and my father would argue that I am, I am human and fairly certain I have been the subject of a dating horror story or two. However, along with those horror stories, there was more honest effort than not. When all was said and done, I’m so over online dating…I think, I realized that although I am still a seeker, I did find something of value…research. I can assure you, that research certainly wasn’t my goal; but at least I have something to show for the three hundred plus dates I’ve subjected myself to. Yes I said “subjected”.
I dare you not to find yourself or your last daunting date in the chapters that follow and I double-dog dare you not to laugh, or maybe blush if you were the definition of the daunting date. So I ask you, “Is this the beginning…or is it the end”? That’s a question you’ll have to answer for yourself, but for now, it’s the beginning of this book.